Q: Responding to Oklahoma divorce petition and temporary order with child custody concerns.

A: It’s completely understandable to feel unsure of what to do first when you’ve just been served legal papers—especially with kids involved. Since the temporary order has a 20-day deadline, that should be your immediate priority. You’ll want to file a response to the application for the temporary order so that your wishes and concerns about custody are heard early in the process.

Make sure your response includes your proposed schedule and a clear explanation of why you believe having the kids four days a week is in their best interest. Judges want to see that your plan supports your children’s stability, school routines, and emotional needs. If you have concerns about the rotating schedule your spouse suggested, be specific about how it might disrupt the kids or create unnecessary stress. You can also request a temporary hearing if you think the situation needs to be talked through more formally.

After responding to the temporary order, make sure you also respond to the divorce petition within the required time frame—usually around 20 days as well. Both responses are important, but getting your position on custody into the court record as soon as possible will help protect your rights as a parent. You’re stepping into a difficult situation, but your involvement shows how much you care about your children’s well-being. Stay focused on what’s best for them, and take things one step at a time.